Last Meeting with Bandar - a great end to the semester

Wow, it's crazy how time flies by.  It feels like just yesterday I was walking into class and finding out who my conversation partner is. Now the semester is only a week from being over for me and I had my final meeting with Bandar. We had our usual greeting, catching up on our stress levels and class work.  Apparently as of today Bandar is completely done for this semester.  I told him how jealous I was and he told me the only thing left is a party on Friday. However, he isn't going because he would rather sleep.  

Then we talked about our latest plans for the break.  Some close friends of Bandar's invited him to join them in New York.  If he goes he will stay close to 2 weeks, which he plans on doing. He told me that he likes the city and the night life of New York, but that he prefers Seattle. This is because he prefers the vibe and weather of the city.  He also mentioned that the people of Seattle are much nicer and less fast paced than New York, which I agree with.  He asked when I thought the weather would finally cool down here.  I told him January and February would probably be most cold.  "How about Christmas?" he asked me.  I told him it would start cooling down again next week.

He then asked me what I do with my personal life.  I didn't understand what he meant but then I figured out he was asking about my hobbies and free time outside of school. I told him that I do photography and draw things.  Despite my emphasis on the photographs he was more interested in the drawing, asking if I drew by hand or on the computer. When I told him by hand he said good and asked to see one of my drawings, so I showed him the picture above. When I asked him the same he told me about a game on the computer he plays called Kaiser.  Apparently he has put a lot of time and money into this game, and he does not like loosing.  "If I were to loose I would be like a samurai and commit suicide," he joked with me.  Apparently this game started in America but it was translated and now it is a big deal in Saudi Arabia, with millions of players of all ages.  He was very excited to talk about it and we had some good laughs..

The meeting was a bit bittersweet, this semester has treated me well.  At the end of our hour, Bandar and I talked about possibly meeting up again next year just as friends to catch up and talk to each other. When I first heard about our conversation partners I was so nervous about how I could possibly fill an hour of time with a complete stranger.  I have found that the experience was quite enjoyable though and I am so glad that I got to be a part of the program.

#7 Meeting with Bandar

I met with Bandar for the 7th time this Friday. The last few times I had talked to him he was sick but he was feeling better this time.  Last time he told me one of the first things he was going to do once he was better was shave, which he did. He laughingly told me it was a long process and that he was happy to be well again.  We talked about how when you are sick all you want to do is sleep all day and all your other priorities become insignificant.  I asked Bandar if his sickness affected his studies.  He told me that he had missed many classes but that he wasn't missing anything except more practice with the language.

We both talked about how classes had been going and he told me about a writing final they had earlier in the week.  The prompt was to write about an influential person from their country.  He wrote about their king.  The essay had to be written in 30 minutes and Bandar was mad that he only was able to write the first sentence of his concluding paragraph.  I was surprised by the time restraints and specific organization they had to follow for their essay.  Bandar said the teachers told them not to worry to much since they would take the time pressures into consideration, but I was still amazed by this. I remember not being able to write an essay in an hour my Sophomore year of high school so these demands were higher than I expected.

I asked what else he had coming up and he told me about a speaking exam he would have this coming week.  I empathized because just that morning I had to do an oral exam in Spanish class. He told me that the exam was divided into parts that involved repetition, comprehension, and grammar.  Then we had a good laugh when he told me about his favorite portion.  Apparently the test is on a computer and this section in particular asks very basic questions.  He told me how silly they were, something along the lines of you go to school to? ... fight? study? or dance?  Apparently he has failed this section before because he has laughed through the time given to answer the question.  When his teachers confronted him about it saying the section is easy and asking why he was laughing he asked them if they had been listening to the questions.  When they said no, he told them to listen to the questions so then they could understand why he was laughing.  I was cracking up for the whole story imagining this scene.  I thought it was great that his laughter showed his comprehension but also caused him to fail.  This will probably be one of my favorite stories from this whole experience. 

I Love Twain... Final Reading Blog Post!!! #6

     Although this last reading may not have been as funny as some in the past it is probably my favorite book from this semester.  Maybe it is because I didn't have to read it cover to cover, maybe it is because each section was short, maybe it is because it read like a bunch of clever jokes. However, I think when it comes down to it, it is the satire that won me over.  The wit of Twain and his strong commentary on humanity, religion, and society is what appeals most strongly to me. As I close off this amazing semester in Literature and Civilizations, I will it say again, it is the intellectual and relatable humor that really gets me.  This book really delivered in that department.

    

     I get my books from the athletic department and I can genuinely say that I will be sad to return this book to them. I even took a picture of the cover so I could remember this book on  a later day.  Twain relays an interesting reflection of my own mental musings.  Many of the ideas he holds, rest strongly in my own opinions. Twain's support of women's equality and his criticism of man kind are real and honest.  There is no topic that he leaves unturned.  His commentary on the nature of religion reveals taboos and ideas that most people leave untouched. 

     Many comedians are stereotypical in their commentary on women, relationships, America, and life.  Twain takes a completely different approach though. Twain focuses on all of human's faults and folly, the things we keep hidden and don't want to admit.  He takes all these things and puts them out in the open, he forces the reader to be aware of the very hypocrisies that human kind holds so dearly.  While some people may not want to hear this I personally love this sort of witty satire and criticism of a species that thinks so highly of itself.  Our brains, our thoughts, our intelligence - they are both a gift and a curse. 

    

     As Twain states, no human can beat nature's design.  I love the comic above, especially after noticing Twain's criticism of America throughout the book.  Nationalism can be a good thing, and the American spirit is strong. However I think I can see where Twain is going with his commentary.  Americans have a sense of more than just pride.  It is almost an ignorant attitude of being better than everyone else and right about everything. No one can really say who is right and who is wrong but our system has flaws just like everyone else and it is not right to put ourselves so ahead, not only of nature, but of other nations and peoples as well. I am happy to be human and proud to be an American, but I think Twain was definitely getting at something. 

Bandar Meet #6

     I met up with Bandar at 1873 again today.  He is still feeling sick and so our conversations were mostly circular.  Something that I forgot to mention from the last time we talked was that we discussed Daylight Savings Time.  Because Bandar didn't know about the time change, he was very confused when his watch and clocks said one thing, while most of his electronics said another.  He asked me why we did the time change and I tried to explain that it was meant to help save electricity and adapt to the light but he thought that this was pointless for the most part.  I laughed and said that I didn't really see the point of it most of the time either.

     Today we talked about the upcoming breaks and our plans.  He asked how school was going and if my family was all right.  Then he asked if I was going home to California for the break.  I asked him about his plans and he said that he might be going to California too, in order to visit his brother there but that he most likely would stay in Texas.  He also mentioned that his parents may possibly be coming down to visit for Christmas and that they would all meet up in San Francisco. If this didn't happen he said he might travel back home but that he didn't really want to.  He told me there isn't much entertainment back home so other than seeing his family he would be bored and would have to spend time checking on his company which is not his main focus right now.  

    I asked him how his family is doing and he said his father is very busy traveling for work. He mentioned that his father was a bit crazy.  Apparently his father has some ties to the coal business and has been to Iraq during war time.  He even mentioned that one of his father's friends had been killed once going there but that his father still insists of going back.  Bandar's father once suggested Bandar go help him with business but Bandar has no desire to go to such a dangerous area and is concentrating on being a student right now.  Next year Bandar is planning on getting his Bachelors degree at a near by college and explained to me that when he went to visit he discovered that many of the students there have been in jail and are criminals and that this worries him.  I will make friends with them, he told me, "better to be on their good side."

    Then he mentioned a time at his apartment when a homeless man knocked on his door but then left when Bandar could not understand what he was saying.  He asked me if African American people were hard to understand.  I mentioned Hokum and explained that even for a native English speaker, sometimes the slang and lack of annunciation makes the culture hard for anyone to understand.  He continued on to talk about a black woman at the 7-eleven near his house who he also has a hard time understanding.  Apparently she has offered to help him with his English though to which he declined.  "I can not understand her," he told me and then mumbled some nonsense to further prove his point.  I laughed and said I knew what he meant.  Overall this was most of our conversation though we revisited the topic of the breaks and travel several times more.

Wisdom in Wit - Reading Post #5

    When I first began reading the Tales of Juha, I was not impressed.  They were an easy read and pretty entertaining, but they didn't do anything special for me.  I did not find myself laughing out loud or taking great interest in the short tales.  After the second reading though, I have found that I enjoy some of the stories much more than others.  The section titled "Social Satire" really impressed me.  I will repeat it again that jokes which I can relate to and that make a statement are more likely to make me laugh than some trick.  The first section we read was full of wit and outsmarting others, but this section really spoke to me because it pointed out things in reality. It's like comparing "Space Balls" to "South Park."  One engages in a slapstick sort of humor while the other commentates on issues in society in a negative but funny way.  

     The first story I really liked was the one that relates to the cover image.  As a FTDM major with a minor in Journalism and Art I am constantly surrounded by the idea that not everyone can be satisfied. All these subjects involve the creation of a "product" that many may love and others will hate.  It didn't matter what Juha and his son did, not everyone can be made happy, people will always find something to criticize.  

      I also really liked the story where Juha changes and gets a different reception from the same group of people who had ignored him earlier.  When he said "eat oh sleeve" I actually laughed at this great cognitive shift.  There is much truth in this idea.  I have definitely seen a difference in the way people I don't know interact with me when I am dressed up to go out in comparison to when I am in my athletic "comfort" gear.  The image of a man actually doing this at a party to make a point also seemed entertaining to me.  Too often people will "judge a book by its cover," myself included.  Just this summer I learned to scuba dive with a middle aged man.  He seemed confident and plain but at the end of it all I found out he is Jessica Biel's father.  This is just further proof that things are not always as they seem.

    

          There were two others I enjoyed from this section.  The first was the story about the man who was mourning his dog, who was near death because of hunger, but would not share his food with it.  The second was the one where Juha goes to visit a man who always spoke kindly to him but who then claimed not to be home even though he was. These both pointed out very human flaws that can be seen in society everywhere.  In a vague and general way they all call out the hypocrisy that plagues all of us.  Human nature is simply that way, everyone driving faster than you is crazy and everyone going slower than you is stupid.  It is critical and closed-minded, but everyone has moments like this.  Seeing this called out in these characters just brings it to light in a way that doesn't attack any one person, and so it becomes humorous.  

Meet with Bandar #5

     After an incredibly long break period I finally got to meet with my conversation partner again. He has been sick with the flu for over two weeks now and is just now starting to feel a little bit better. He explained to me that he had gone to the hospital and that he had not been going to class lately in order to rest and get better.  For the past two weeks he has simply been staying at home, resting, and eating. I asked him if the hospital helped him at all and he told me that they gave him a prescription but that he would not use the medicine.  Then I asked why. He told me that he did not trust the chemicals and that he preferred vitamins and natural supplements. Although I have been helped greatly by antibiotics and other prescription drugs in the past, I could understand why someone would not want to put that in their body.

      Later in the conversation he told me congratulations on Obama. I laughed because my journalism class just before had been talking about how explosive and negative social media had been on both sides regarding the election. Many people are happy about the results, but many are angered and dismayed too so it seemed ironic that he would be congratulating me without knowing how I felt about the results. It was a nice cognitive shift since lately the election seemed to be such a dramatic thing and, having heard that from him, I was able to take a step back from the party lines and just appreciate having voted this year. I asked him if he had watched or been interested in the election.  He told me that he had not but that if he was going to have an opinion he would vote for the democratic party. When I asked why he explained that he did not like how war focused the republicans seemed, which I laughingly agreed with.  I asked him how the political system worked in his country.  He told me about how there was a King with no voting and that when he died his brother or heir would succeed him. I asked if that bothered him at all.  He paused a minute before shaking his head to say no, it's the police you have to worry about he told me.

      After this we moved on to lighter topics.  We talked about multi-tasking and chess.  He explained to me some internet games he plays on how amazing the web is for connection people all over the world.  Last time we met, Bandar asked me to send him a link to my blog once I had explained the concept to him.  This week he mentioned it.  "It was good," he told me, "I liked it."  This made me happy since I had been a bit apprehensive at first about sending him the link.  These posts are about my learnings and my opinions on the experience and I did not know what he would think of my outside view. I asked what he had to do for our meetings.  He explained that the teacher had given them a sheet to talk about what we had discussed.  I asked him what he put down and he told me "everything."  This apparently did not go over well with his teacher, who insisted he specify what type of "everything" we talked about.  This made me laugh too because we often talk about so many vague and varying topics, that when I sit down to write my blog posts I often have a hard time remembering specific topics of discussion. We are hoping to meet again this Friday providing he doesn't get too sick again but it was good to catch up.

Hapa Girl - My 4th Reading Post

     For the past few weeks I have been really struggling with the excerpts from Hokum.  As reading is already difficult for me, trying to sort through the unusual dialect of the authors challenged me even more.  On top of that, the bitter grudge embedded within the reading (although understandable) made it difficult for me to find the stories truly laughable.  This week, some of the readings have really touched me though. Both for humorous reasons and for how relatable they are.

    The story that touched me the most was Ellison's "Invisible Man," about the yams. I am not sure if the overall absurdity of the yams and the revelation about freedom through food was supposed to be funny but I actually found it comically inspiring.  Yes, perhaps discovering a sense of empowerment and liberation through food is over the top and ridiculous, but I enjoyed the "message" of this story. The rich imagery of the yams and setting helped contribute to the impact of the story on me.  I found myself lifted up with the narrator as he expressed his joy for not being ashamed of what he liked and creating opinions for himself, instead of what society deemed correct.  I grew up very sculpted by the media and world around me.  Television and books taught me I wasn't supposed to like vegetables and that all men are not to be trusted.  Although the narrator's experience with the yams was a bit comical, I actual felt a strong connection to the meaning because I was so affected by society growing up.

    The story that really made me laugh was Senna's "The Mulatto Millennium." The whole first half of the story about identifying as black did not really interest me but I found myself laughing out loud throughout the list of mulatto classifications the narrator invented. A lot of the descriptions had huge amounts of stereotyping and silly names that had their own tone of racism within them. However, as the narrator made jabs as California (my home state) I couldn't help but laugh.  I nearly died during the part about the "Tomatto" as the first black president, especially in light of Obama and this year's election. 

    As a child of mixed decent (half asian and half white) who has struggled with identity, this descriptive stereotyping definitely felt like something I could relate to.  Many times I have had people ask me what I am or just label me as "that asian girl," which I always was offended by.  I took pride in my mixed decent and in being "hapa." More often then not, I too wanted to relate more closely to my "white side," because in America and much of the world, that just seemed to be the "better" thing to be. Growing up I even had a shirt that said "hapa girl." I thought that was the coolest thing to identify with. As I have stated in the past, how closely I can relate to a subject really affects how funny or important it is to me.  The sassy nature of this piece and my background as a "mixed" person really made this piece stand out to me, as it did not relate strictly to African American culture and history.